Families often wonder when and how they should talk to their child about their disability. You might find these conversations daunting, but the good news is it doesn’t have to be perfect, just honest, kind and age-appropriate.
Children benefit from knowing about their disability. It helps them understand themselves and feel proud of who they are.
Start early, talk often
Make talking about disability just part of what you do in your family. Talking openly about your child’s disability is an important part of helping them feel good about themselves, and that their disability isn’t something they need to hide. These regular, open conversations also help your child feel more confident – including when responding to questions from peers.
Be open and honest
Children often know when something is different, even if they don’t have the words to explain it. Being open and honest with them helps make sense of their experiences and reassures them.
Talking about their disability in a clear and supportive way helps build understanding, and focusing on your child’s strengths can also boost their confidence and self-esteem.
Be Prepared for Feelings
Children may feel angry, sad, or relieved – it depends on their age, personality, and experiences. Let them know all feelings are okay, and you’re there to listen and support them.
Keep it age appropriate
Start with small, simple explanations and use language your child can understand. You don’t have to explain everything at once. The conversations you have with your child about their disability are something you can build on over time.
As they grow older, they may ask more questions – this can be a sign they are ready for more information.
Finding representation
Sharing children’s books and watching TV shows that feature children with disability is a good way to make disability an everyday part of what you talk about as a family. These stories can spark conversations and help your child feel seen
ACD has a range of blogs listing our favourite books, tv shows and movies featuring children with disability in a positive way.
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